What would your life look like if you could erase the limiting beliefs that make you feel unworthy, unloved, or not enough?

Josh Trent welcomes Shelly Lefkoe, Belief Eliminator Extraordinaire and Co-Founder of the Lefkoe Institute, to the Wellness + Wisdom Podcast, episode 774, to uncover how childhood beliefs shape our identity, why events are always neutral, how self-doubt is planted early in life, and the proven process for dissolving limiting beliefs so you can experience freedom, confidence, and truth beyond the mind.

In This Episode, Shelly Lefkoe Uncovers:

[01:05] What Creates Meaning and Beliefs?

• Why people know what to do and still don’t do it.
• How beliefs underline patterns.
• Why beliefs are different from meaning.
• How all emotions come from the meaning we give to events.

Resources:

• Shelly Lefkoe
• Hitting The Wall by Shelly Lefkoe
• Remove a limiting belief (FREE GUIDE)

[06:05] What Meaning Do You Attach to Your Experience?

• Why all events have consequences, but they don’t have meaning.
• How meaning only exists in our mind.
• Why we don’t have any beliefs when we’re born.
• How children who are criticized think they’re not good enough.
• Why beliefs don’t easily go away.
• How we believe what we think we’ve seen.

[15:25] We’re Meaning-Making Machines

• Why children believe in Santa Claus and then one day realize that he isn’t real.
• How everything in our lives can be improved by changing our beliefs.
• Why people complicate things because they don’t understand what’s possible.
• How every person has the same 10 beliefs.

[23:55] What Beliefs Run Your Life?

• How pride blocks us from getting to joy.
• Why it’s common for Asian parents to focus on their children’s achievements.
• How patterns are formed by multiple beliefs.
• The most common beliefs that most people have.
• What helped Shelly become her true self.

Resources:

• 738 How To Heal Generational Wounds Blocking Your Success + Self-Worth | John Wang

[30:30] How to Change The Patterns?

• Why we first need to address what we want to change and be willing to change.
• How we can change a behavior pattern, emotional pattern, or reality pattern.
• Why some people believe that public speaking is scary.
• How we can decondition the emotions attached to our fears.

Resources:

• The Pavlov Experiment

[36:35] Is Talk Therapy Ever Helpful?

• Why therapy can be helpful for people who need to talk.
• How we don’t know anything for sure.
• What helped Shelly cope with grief after her husband passed.

[42:20] How to Live a Fulfilling Life

• Why positive thinking is not the answer to our problems.
• The importance of taking care of all areas of our lives.
• Why Shelly feels blessed with the life she has.

[45:30] Healing The Money Wound

• Why some children have more resilience than others.
• How many people believe they have to work hard to get results.
• Why Josh connected success with disconnecting from love.

Resources:

• 720 Rick William | EQ Mastery: The Hidden Cost of Not Feeling Your Emotions (The Neurochemistry of Suffering)
• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Der Kolk
• The Latch Theory

[51:45] Who Creates Your Life?

• How Shelly’s work is a cognitive gateway to emotional results.
• Why pain is a perception of the brain.
• How we can identify our limiting beliefs.
• Why most people don’t feel good enough.
• How our lives are consistent with our beliefs.
• Who creates our lives.

[01:00:50] Life Should Be Fun

• How Shelly refused to get married when she was 19.
• Why she made sure her life was fun.
• How her husband gave her life a purpose.

[01:04:35] The Most Important Parenting Advice

• Why we are all one.
• How every human being deserves to be treated with dignity and respect.
• Why we can prevent children from making false conclusions about our interaction with them.
• The importance of asking the right questions.

[01:11:50] Your Capacity to Love Is Defined By Your Beliefs

• Why Tony Robbins is successful with CEOs.
• How people jump into relationships without asking important questions.
• Why beliefs underlie the capacity to love ourselves and others.

Resources:

• 048 Nir Eyal: Breaking Bad Habits, Technology Addiction, & Emotional Triggers
• 758 Dr. Jud Brewer | Why You Fail Quitting Bad Habits (and How to Finally Break Free)

[01:18:20] You Can Have Good Relationships

• Why Shelly’s gift in this world is to love well.
• The importance of having good friends.
• How Shelly’s friends helped her get over grief.
• What blocks people from having good relationships with other people.

Resources:

• 366 Mark Wolynn | How To Heal Generational Trauma: The Thoughts, Feelings, Patterns & Behaviors Formed Before You Were Ever Born
• Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff

[01:23:20] How Parents Insert Beliefs in Their Children

• How not being good enough is the most common belief our children get from us.
• Why using the phone while our children are looking at us causes them to believe they’re not important.
• The importance of communicating with our children when we can’t give them attention.
• Our circumstances don’t have to define our reality.
• Why we shouldn’t love our children conditionally.

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All Resources From This Episode

• Shelly Lefkoe
• Hitting The Wall by Shelly Lefkoe
• Remove a limiting belief (FREE GUIDE)
• 738 How To Heal Generational Wounds Blocking Your Success + Self-Worth | John Wang
• The Pavlov Experiment
• 720 Rick William | EQ Mastery: The Hidden Cost of Not Feeling Your Emotions (The Neurochemistry of Suffering)
• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Der Kolk
• The Latch Theory
• 048 Nir Eyal: Breaking Bad Habits, Technology Addiction, & Emotional Triggers
• 758 Dr. Jud Brewer | Why You Fail Quitting Bad Habits (and How to Finally Break Free)
• 366 Mark Wolynn | How To Heal Generational Trauma: The Thoughts, Feelings, Patterns & Behaviors Formed Before You Were Ever Born
• Happy for No Reason by Marci Shimoff

Power Quotes From Shelly Lefkoe

“Meaning’s in your mind, it’s never in the events. The meaning that you give events generally comes from your beliefs and beliefs get formed in the past. Meaning gets formed in the moment. So when you get rid of beliefs, you get rid of the patterns.” — Shelly Lefkoe

“If you get criticized as a child, you say, why can’t I live up to mommy and daddy’s expectations? Oh, I guess I’m not good enough. Why are mommy and daddy struggling about money? Well, I guess money is scarce and hard to get. That’s how beliefs are formed.” — Shelly Lefkoe

“Never ask “why”. Why is a terrible question. Even if you knew why, it’s not powerful. Ask “what”. What is answerable. Why? I don’t know. And that’s what you’ll get from your kid. Why don’t you like school? I don’t know. What is it about school that you don’t like?” — Shelly Lefkoe