Self-Sabotage is a Lie: The Hidden Duality Keeping You Stuck | Dr. John Demartini

In This Episode, Dr. John Demartini Uncovers:

[01:15] Self-Sabotage Is a Myth

• How we create self-sabotaging behavior.
• Why we don’t follow through on our highest priorities.
• How self-sabotage is feedback that tells us that we’re pursuing something that’s not a high priority for us.
• The importance of delegating tasks that are not the highest priority.

Resources:

• Dr. John Demartini
• 634 Dr. John Demartini | Human Potential: Your Practical + Spiritual Guide To Getting The Life You Desire

[05:00] Mastery Happens Through The Opposites

• Why there is a hidden order in the perceived chaos.
• How we can restore the hidden order.
• Why seeing both positives and negatives means that we can see the the whole reality.
• What it truly means to love someone.

[09:25] Perception Changes Absolutely Everything

• How perception defines our reality.
• Why asking different questions can create a new reality.
• How we resist change and own our traits.
• Why we resent people who remind us of something hidden within us.
• How we can become fully aware.

[14:40] Values Hierarchy

• The role of our intuitive feedback system in our brain.
• Why we follow moral hypocrisies we learned throughout our lives.
• How perfection is the benefit of both sides of polarity.
• Why being proud of ourselves gives us permission to be ashamed.
• How pride and shame are not the authentic self.
• Why everything is teaching us how to love ourselves and others.

[19:50] Pride VS Gratitude

• Why gratitude is more important than pride.
• What actualization is.
• How thinking we’re successful means we’re on the way down.
• Why pride eventually makes us feel humbled.
• Positive thinking is not the solution.
• How Dr. Demartini’s wife’s criticism helped him return to authenticity.
• Why he created a list of humbling questions for when he felt proud.

[27:15] You Can’t Get Rid of The Ego

• How we can integrate the ego instead of despising it.
• Why the ego is a part of human essence.
• The importance of having fulfilment in life.
• How we create a void within ourselves, which makes us attract more void.
• Why fullness is already present.

Resources:

• Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday

[31:45] What Stops Your Growth

• How the mystery of the unknown exceeds the known.
• Why the known keeps us on a journey of discovery.
• How approaching our knowledge with pride brings us down.
• Why we can’t experience the hidden order of the universe all the time.

[34:35] What Is God?

• The difference between an atheist and believer.
• How our fear creates fantasies of what God is.
• Why we can’t handle the mystery of God.
• How divinity is light.

Resources:

• Oh My God (2009)

[40:10] The Purpose of Evil

• Why evil exists in the universe.
• How everything exists in opposites to maintain order.
• Why evil things have their purpose.
• How Dr. Demartini looks at the objective of all events.
• Why nothing can be labeled good or bad.

[46:25] The Illusion of Morality

• How God is in every single action.
• Why we need to be taught the illusions before we’re ready for the truth.
• How our moralities evolve.
• Why we’re not living our lives based on universal laws.

[51:55] Teach Your Children Accountability

• How Dr. Demartini learned accountability from his father.
• Why he learned to buy his freedom at a very young age.
• How his dad raised him to be aware.
• Why the greatest teacher is exemplification.

[58:10] Good and Bad Don’t Exist

• Why our wounds come from incomplete awareness.
• How we become a master of destiny.
• Why the trap of morality keeps us enslaved.
• How believing in good and bad makes us disempowered.

[01:00:50] Your Values Define You

• Why identity is defined by what we value most.
• How there are no right or wrong values.
• Why our values evolve and change.
• How our identity is always oriented to the highest fulfilment.
• Why our power lies in knowing who we are.

[01:07:45] Synthesis + Synchronicity

• How we can stay authentic in the times of AI and social media.
• What it takes to find a synthesis of two opinions.
• How for every opinion, there is an opposite opinion.
• Why we need to seek synchronicity of the opposites.
• The importance of appreciating both sides.

[01:10:35] You’re Part of The Matrix

• How we’re both the hero and the villain at the same time.
• Why we can’t get rid of any part of ourselves.
• How comparing ourselves to others make us feel like we need to lose or gain something.
• Why aging is a byproduct of missing information.

[01:14:40] Ask The Right Questions

• Whenever we experience an emotion, we’re in a state of incomplete awareness.
• How we need to ask ourselves which side we’re overlooking.
• Why we can’t rush into new relationships.
• How our emotions tell us what questions to ask.

[01:17:25] Love + Gratitude Are The Key

• Why everything is an illusion, except love.
• How the right questions calibrate the mind.
• What blocks us from enlightenment.
• The two types of gratitude.
• Why Dr. Demartini journals on gratitude every day.

“The more we’re attracted to innocence, the more we attract the perpetrator. The more we attract looking for protection, the more we attract the aggression, the more we’re looking for peace, the more we attract the conflict. The pairs of opposites are inseparable. We tend to think that something’s terrible or something’s terrific, and that’s the illusion. They’re not. They’re pairs of opposites. And so the average person who hasn’t seen that order still gets caught in the labels of this is good and this is bad, because they haven’t broadened their mind enough to see both sides simultaneously.” — Dr. John Demartini

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All Resources From This Episode

• Dr. John Demartini
• 634 Dr. John Demartini | Human Potential: Your Practical + Spiritual Guide To Getting The Life You Desire
• Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday
• Oh My God (2009)